How Well-Being Can Improve Your Relationship

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I am very fortunate to have the lovely Isabel guest post today. She is absolutely incredible as she speaks of what I feel so many couples and individuals need to hear. Her blog post is titled, ‘How Well Being Can Improve Your Relationship’. This article will certainly resonate with many. Take it away Isabel!

He is the one, and you know it. You feel so happy to have met him and that the two of you are in a relationship, and you should.

But then you start worrying that he might leave you for someone else, or that he might not like something about you. You even come to the point where you might think that you are no longer good enough for him. Then, you’ll start obsessing about your relationship, trying to make up in attention what you think you might be lacking as a person or a lover – ‘If I call him several times a day, he will know that I care for him, right?’ or ‘He can’t possibly leave me after all the attention I have given him”.

And this is where you have it all wrong. No man wants a possessive, needy partner who is unsure of herself, a woman so focused on her own flaws that she stops caring about their relationship. If that’s the case, they might actually leave.

But, there is a way to prevent this from happening. Some things can still be fixed no matter how broken they are.

Drama thing

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“Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn’t change the heart of others– it only changes yours.”
― Shannon L. Alder

Research has proven that some of the most common dating mistakes women make relate back to the lack of real communication with their partner.

Imagine a situation where you come home after a bad day at work and you expect that he will notice that you are upset and ask you right away what the problem is. When he doesn’t, you get angry and resent the fact that he doesn’t know you well enough to realize that you need to talk to someone; or maybe he just does not care? Then, you start doubting yourself or thinking that there might be another girl. This might cause you to make a scene. After an argument you’ll only feel worse, because you know that is not how to be a good girlfriend, right?

Stop doing that and go for a different approach.

  • If you do not tell him, how will he know? Maybe he is also having a really bad day. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel without any drama.
  • Think about his feelings as well. The relationship is not just about you, so enquire about his day before unloading all the bad things about yours. Maybe he will share something good with you and you can partake in his happiness.
  • Small things are sometimes just small things. Stop overanalyzing everything and imagining the worst-case scenario.

 

Importance of self love

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“Never forget that once upon a time, in an unguarded moment, you recognised yourself as a friend.”

― Elizabeth Gilbert

It is a well-known fact that people feel better about themselves whilst in the company of confident people. It transmits positive vibes and reinforces the positive opinion of oneself. Lack of confidence, on the other hand, can have the opposite effect. If you tend to over-criticise everything you do, your partner will start feeling the same way about himself. Really unhealthy, isn’t it?

You were not always so negative about yourself. There was a time when you liked how you were and did not care about what others thought of you. It might have been during your childhood, your adolescence or even last year, but at a certain point, you liked who you were and cherished your flaws as well as your qualities. They are what makes you who you are. If you can’t resolve these issues on your own, consider other routes like self-acceptance books, or even acceptance & commitment therapy which is recommended by Heath Group Practice. Online counselling is also a great alternative, at least for the first couple of sessions and it’s great if you are a shy person. A fine example of this would be 7cups counselling.

 

However here’s two basic tips on how you can start to love yourself again:

  • Be kind to yourself and love who you are. That will give you strength to face any problems you might be having with your partner.
  • Embrace your flaws, nobody is perfect.

Hold on together.

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“Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you’re worthy of the trip.”

― Glenn Beck, The Christmas Sweater

Think of your relationship as one long voyage cruise across the sea – there will be storms but there will also be breath-taking sunrises. This is an adventure you share with the one you love and both of you must enjoy the trip if you want to make it work. Both of you must want to arrive at the same harbor and embark on a new journey. For that, both of you need to feel confident about yourselves and about where you want your relationship to be.

Changing your habits and beliefs is hard, but it is not impossible:

  • Reassure yourself that you are the person your partner wants to spend time with and let him know you want to be with him too. A relationship is two people going in the same direction.
  • Just enjoy your ride. You deserved it for all the love you are willing to offer.

Relationships are hard even when you have everything working for you. So, do not dwell on the negative all the time. Take his hand and face the horizon together.

 

Isabel WilliamsIsabel F. William Body&Mind Balance Consultant. Lover of literature and philosophy, runner, and Tai Chi master. She believes that sometimes it is just enough to enjoy a really good book, smooth jazz and a cup of coffee to travel somewhere else.

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E-mail: isabel.f.william@gmail.com or  isabel.frank@ripped.me

 

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Spell Classy With A Pink Dress

Hi ladies, I went to an awards ceremony a few months ago as part of the press team. It was lovely seeing all the fabulous and colourful outfits. They were mostly African wear or African print based. I love wearing African print, however, for this occasion I opted for one of my pink dresses. I call this a classy pink dress because I think it’s simple, conservative and playful at the same time.

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I met up with my cousin the other day and she told me that my dress sense is conservative but playful. She gave me an example saying that I may wear a playful jumpsuit or dress but then wear a jacket to go with it. Well, I have you know that I am often known as the jacket girl at work because I wear so many jackets. Nonetheless, I usually dress quite smart for work. When I say smart I mean smart casual as we’re allowed to be quite flexible in terms of what we wear at work.

Classy Pink Dress

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I absolutely love how I wore my hair to this event. I sprinkled my hair with water and added some leave in hair conditioner, then I parted it into sections and plaited it. I went to bed and undid the plaits the next morning and just used my fingers or a tooth comb to loosen the curls before clipping my hair at the back. I then used my fingers to style the front of my hair in order to give it volume.

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So if you have a special event to attend during these coming weeks, why not buy a simple, yet smart and conservative pink dress and wear black heels. Such heels goes with almost anything. If you feel like going back in time slightly, you can do my hairstyle and I won’t tell. So, spell classy with a pink dress.

Hope you like my pictures as much as I liked taking them.

 

HettyAsh xx

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CreatHers Event – Reflection of 20.8.17

Hi all, I’ve been away for a few weeks as I was so busy organising the second CreatHers event which took place on Sunday the 20th of August 2017. It was stressful which I’m sure you can imagine as planning events are generally quite hectic. I planned the first event with the help of someone, but this time, I organised the event entirely on my own. It was a scary experience but I’m glad I did it.

Event Rundown

The event was all about envisioning ones dreams and goals for the future which enabled guests to create their own vision boards. This section if the event helped guests to reflect upon what they aspire to have and what they dream of becoming in the future.

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We had an incredible host called Talisa Wallace who manages multiple projects including creating an app and investing in business ventures.

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vision board party

We had incredible vendors who showcased their products and services that were also available to purchase. You definitely need to have a look at their websites as their businesses are very unique and bespoke.

cideas CreatHers Chevz Cases CreatHers The Lost Grad, CreatHers moreintome CreatHers Joli, CreatHersOur main sponsors were Heavenly Rainbow Cupcakes and Popcorn Kitchen. I saw people digging into the chocolate popcorn and the sweet flavour….mmmmm. The cupcakes were delightful. I particularly loved the oreo cupcakes which had oreo biscuit on the base. Zereena, founder of this cupcake brand supplied several flavours including tropical punch. It was so unique.

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The guest speakers did a fantastic job. Guests kept referring back to how amazing it was that the speakers shared their journeys into their respective fields, were honest and gave a real insight into their personal experiences.

Sponsors

Popcorn Kitchen

Popcorn Kitchen CreatHers

Heavenly Rainbow Cupcakes

Heavenly Rainbow Cupcakes, CreatHers

 

Vendors

Chevz Cases Vendor, CreatHers cideas Vendor CreatHers moreintome Vendor CreatHers Shopjoil Vendor, CreatHers The Lost Grad Vendor CreatHers

Guest speakers

Kandise Abiola – freelance TV producer

Lauren Kay – celebrity, commercial & advertising makeup, hair and body paint artist

Ronke Lawal – PR consultant and founder of Ariatu PR

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Feedback from Guest

You know what? I think I’m talking too much. Below is feedback from one of our beautiful guests:

A memorable day for me. Ladies I didn’t know what to expect when invited to this event, but I must say I am thankful that I didn’t turn it down. This day was an amazing experience full of fun, laughter, lots of motivation, uplifting, inspiring and something I don’t get to witness everyday, women all in one room showing so much support, love,care, interaction and confidence. I am impressed by the detail that was put into organising this event which was very well presented, thought out and proof that we can all get along.

This CreatHers Event helps you to broaden your horizons and tap into your inner core, which some of us don’t get to do sometimes because of the everyday hustle and bustle of life. It helps direct you to focus on the things that you want/need in life and helps you to build a structure, a foundation for the things in your life, what you’d like to see in your life and what you really believe in. Even though this event was put together for young women Entrepreneurs, I really do believe this would benefit all types of woman of all ages because of its purpose. From the warmth and laughter that filled up the room, to the motivational speakers, the vision boards, refreshments provided and the networking.

For some women they wouldn’t necessarily know where to start or don’t even have the support they need in order to start their dreams/visions, this has opened up a door to many. We are living in such a microwaved world, full of control, idol, jealousy, envy, judgement, when in true fact there’s a slice of the cake for everyone!!!! Yes everyone can be successful!!!

From Melanie Ryan

Thank you so much Melanie!

Subscribe to my blog to be kept updated about future events or send an email to creathers@hettyash.com.

Hetty xx

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Shades of Brown and Fiercely Red

Hi guys! I love wearing brown. It suits my skin complexion. I feel like I could wear almost anything within reason and still look OK in it as long as it’s brown. Red in another favourite colour of mine. It stands out, it goes with a lot of other colours and most girls are infatuated by the vibrancy behind the colour red. How can you not be?

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I call this look – ‘shades of brown and fiercely red’. I feel fierce wearing this look because of the rich colour of brown and the bold red colour.

 

I’m wearing an animal print tunic top that has a tie around the neck and gathers. It gives it a more relaxed and loose look.

brown outfit, with a red jacket

The ¾ length brown trousers is also loose fitted. I love the material as it’s so comfortable.

These heels is one of my favourite as it’s a lot more comfortable than most heels. It has a cushion on the soles and although it is pointed, it is wide fitted for people who have wide feet.

brown outfit, with a red jacket

My jacket is waist length and is great for summer. It’s bright and smart and when it’s slightly cold, I can wear it to keep me warm.

red jacket and animal print

I love handbags that I can literally wear everyday. I guess that’s why they’re called the everyday handbag. The straps are detachable so I can hold the bag using it’s handles or use it as a crossover.

My fashion tip is to be bold when it comes to colours but not too bold that the colours are a complete mismatch. Animal print an brown colours go well with red. Pink heels can be the perfect combination when it comes to brown and red. I know – surprising.

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So there you have it,

 

‘Shades of Brown and Fiercely Red’.

 

HettyAsh xx

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CreatHers Event August 2017

CreatHers Event August 2017

Hi ladies, I’m excited to announce that I’m organising the next CreatHers Event along with a friend of mine who also works in the media industry! The first event was an absolutely success. It was a success because many of our guests gave positive feedback which was more than what I could ask for. The next event will be on the 20th of August 2017.

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There will be a vision board party which will give guests the opportunity to create their own unique career related vision boards with the help of magazines. We will have three guest speakers from the media and wider creative industry. So ensure you are kept up to date on the event as the line up is revealed. The last part of the event will be a networking section which will give guests the opportunity to expand their network, promote their brands, businesses, and self. There will also be vendors on the day from unique brands so ensure you bring cash so that you don’t miss out on the goodies.

There are a limited number of exclusive spaces available. Tickets are already live via Eventbrite and there are early bird tickets. The early bird tickets are the only discount that will be available so book  your space before it’s too late.

Read how the first event went in April 2017.

If you would like to sponsor the event or be a vendor do get in touch by emailing us at creathers@hettyash.com

To book your ticket visit this link: CreatHers Event August 2017.

Don’t miss out on attending the UK’s only vision board party.

 

HettyAsh xx

 

 

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