No Time For The Lazy


Let’s start the week; Sunday – grab some popcorn, kick back and relax whilst watching a juicy episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta, feisty girls, so comical, #ICanLaughAllDay. Turn to Catch Up TV and watch Made In Chelsea – what restaurant are they in? Oooh that food looks delish! SLEEP.


Monday – flick through job sites, like jobs, mental note – I will apply for them soon. Check bank account, check shoes – need new shoes – maybe a handbag too. I’ll treat myself to a Westfield’s shopping day – Melissa, will you come with? Great! Long day, knackered, SLEEP.


Tuesday – Look at jobs I’ve liked on job sites, OK, I’ll come back to you don’t you worry about that. Ooooh is that, noooo, it is – Dinner date! Love it, I’m watching. Call friend, talk for two hours, Good night babe. SLEEP.


Wednesday – My friend’s in town, yes! “Where you at girl? I’m coming over”. At her house, talking about dreams, ambitions, I’m on a mission. Bye girl, see you later. SLEEP.


Thursday – What was me and my friend saying again, hmmm. Anyways, this film is out in the cinema, what’s it called? I’m going to go and check it out, hope I like it, then I’ll apply for those jobs. Home. SLEEP.

Friday – Paaaaaarrrrttttyyy, I’m going to paaaaarrrrrrtttyyyyy! Calling friends. Where you guys going? Out to eat? OK I’ll come anyway. Restaurant. Food tastes good. Talking. Lots of talking, laughing, giggling. Four hours later. Home time. Bye lovelies. SLEEP.


Saturday – Finally it’s the weekend. I need a break. Let me have a look at those jobs. Oh, some of them have disappeared, I’ll like some other jobs. Great. Ten jobs to apply for. I heard about the Breakfast Club, I’m going to have some breakfast now. Phone rings, my friend’s coming round. Great! Let me clean my home. Friend comes. Friend leaves. SLEEP.


Sunday – Church, church church. REPEAT.


I never have any time! So years pass and you still don’t have time. Sometimes things can be a challenge, sometimes it’s difficult to be proactive, apply for those jobs, go to those interviews, do research, attend seminars for motivation, inspiration and advice, attend networking events. Just think – we all have approximately 365 days in a year and four weeks each month and a total of 12 months each year.


Perhaps, setting monthly goals and targets may help you to achieve your destination and be strict with yourself – it’s OK to say no to certain things and yes to others.


“All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful; all things are lawful for me, but all things do not edify”. 1st Corinthians 10: 23


HettyAsh xx


Block Heels and Ripped Tights

Block Heels and Ripped Tights

Busy girl, busy day, a busy bee… a mildly cold Saturday for a beautiful day celebrating two special birthdays. The first birthday was all about my gorgeous and handsome nephew (I wish he was my son L too cute) who turned the magic number one. Everyone turned up and there was a lot of food, drinks and cake to go around 10 times over. My sister’s (Asia bee) friends came with their kids and the party didn’t finish until late. Myself and my brothers couldn’t stay until the end because we all had our own individual agendas…


I had my friend’s birthday dinner to go to, so me and my brothers jumped in the car and off we went home to drop me off so I could get ready. I was going to wear a slim fitted baby pink dress, but I changed my mind, as us girls do. I ended up wearing a lime-ish green oversized mid length dress with minimal detail, sheer skin toned tights, yellow heart shaped earrings and a pair of black and gold open toe and heel with 4 inched block heels.


I got a call from my friend who was picking me up in her car and so, I took my dark red leather medium handbag (without a pair of flats, like I usually do), my furry and cosy black mid length coat and off I went. It was very clear to me and to her who was waiting at the end of my road, that I was finding it very difficult to walk in these perfect, but then so not perfect heels. I walked limping – my left leg straight and my right leg slightly tilted unable to stay on the platform of my shoe. My friend asked, “why didn’t you bring a pair of flats?” That’s a good question.


My friend (I’ll refer to her as Lucy – but that’s really not her name, lol) parked about a 10-minute walk from a Cuban restaurant in Camden. It was her birthday celebration and she was about to celebrate it in style – as they say. I met one of her friends who I will call Rich (to hide his real name), in my friend’s car as she picked him up before she met me. Rich was such a lovely guy who allowed me to cling onto him for dear life. I literally couldn’t walk unsupported – crazy. There I was clinging onto his shoulder and taking a good 20-30 minutes (I think) to reach the restaurant. I nearly fell five times, but at least I made it in one piece. Just one problem, how will I go back?


“The same way you came” – Rich.


The first of Lucy’s friends to arrive after myself and Rich was a guy who I will call Stephen. We talked a bit as I try to talk to all of my friend’s friends and slowly but surely the rest of Lucy’s friends arrived. We talked, laughed, ordered food, ate and had fun!


An hour to midnight and I knew I had to make my way home, but this time by tube as Lucy was not ready to leave. As Stephen was travelling the same way as me, we went together (thank you God!) I clung onto Stephen as though my life depended on it and anytime he took more than 5 steps in one minute I told him he was walking too fast. I walked (barely) as though my right leg was shorter than my left or as if I was learning to walk again. It was embarrassing.


Now the icing on the cake to top it all off, as I got on the second train (because we took two trains) I heard a tear and as I looked down, there were my toes on my right foot playing peak a boo. I had to tell Stephen in case he accidentally looked down and thought I was some girl Lucy took off the streets and invited to her birthday celebration.


I nearly fell up, yes up, the escalators, had to hide my open toe peek a boo toes, but at least Stephen was kind enough to allow me to hold onto his shoulders whilst I attempted to walk. Walking home was not much of a problem as there weren’t many people to walk past apart from one guy in a car who said, “your heels are too high” or something like that. “I know, hehehe”. Lol!


Moral of the story? There are some nice guys and gentlemen out there who just want to be kind! Yup, that’s the moral of the story.


HettyAsh xx


Evil Company Corrupts Good Habits

Evil Company Corrupts Good Habits

“Do not be deceived: evil company corrupts good habits”. 1st Corinthians Chapter 15:33. A good example is someone who is trying to quit smoking. It’s hard and requires a lot of strength. But if you still hang around with people who constantly smoke, it will be near impossible to stop.  I’ve seen this happen a lot of times. How about hanging around people who steal and saying that you don’t steal so you’re fine, but you’re with the same people that are committing that act. When the police get called, you’ll be involved. Basically, if you’re trying to break a bad habit and progress,  try analysing your current company and investigate to see if they are helping you or bringing you down.

“You can’t hang out with chickens and expect to soar with eagles” – Joel Osteen (thanks Asiabee for this quote).

HettyAsh xx


Bee Bites – Tempting Seafood Delight

I don’t know about you guys and dolls but I find that diets just don’t work. I prefer to eat clean and to ensure that my food is as delightful as me. So each week I will be giving you an insight into my healthy lifestyle and posting healthy meals created by myself in the hope that it will be an inspiration to you all.



A Blissful Breakfast

As you all know, breakfast is the most important meal of the day, so to ensure my day is off to a good start, I begin my day with organic porridge oats and blueberries, with my secret tea. One cup of this secret tea is an equivalent of six cups of green teas.



Tempting Seafood Delight

As a mother, time is of the essence, so to prepare an easy and quick lunch, I make a rainbow salad and then add in some prawns and calamari to ensure that I get all the nutrients I need at lunchtime. This is followed by some green tea to help increase my metabolism.



Virtuous Greens

Virtuous Greens consists of kale, spinach, broccoli and carrots – accompanied by grilled chicken. This is guaranteed to make you feel light and ready for bed. Greens are best to help break down the food, which assists with the digestion process and contains anti-oxidants, which ensures that all the toxins are flushed out of your body.



On the go lunch salad, this can be found in most supermarkets, by the fish and salad sections. This particular one consists of mixed leaves salad, calamari and king prawns.



xo Asiabee


A Certified Bum

A Certified Bum

Have you ever come across a certified bum? I mean someone who doesn’t seem to, or appear to be going anywhere in life, even though you really believe in them and their words? I have! You know the old sayings that talk about hanging around people that will lift you up and encourage you to progress? Well, that’s exactly what I’ve been trying to do. But for you ladies who are single, or maybe even have a boyfriend and are not sure what to look out for in regards to steering clear of certified bums, I have five key pointers. Have a look.

5. Lack of Focus
“I’m going to have my own fashion line – no, I’m going to train to be a fitness trainer – actually, I want to be an engineer”. If your guy displays these attributes, then it’s time to take a second look, putting all feelings aside. It will be very difficult for anyone to progress in life and achieve if they are not focused; “strivers achieve what dreamers believe”.
4. Stuck on a Treadmill 
Can you really believe that some people can be running on a treadmill and not have a motive or a goal? As a woman who may be dating, or in a relationship with someone like this, you will notice that although people around them have progressed – they haven’t. They will still be in the same place they were when you first met them, no matter how many years it’s been. The world rotates with them stuck in the middle of it.
3. Delusions of Gunger
“I will buy a brand new Mercedes Benz next year. I will buy my own house this year, and I will travel the world in yachts”. That guy that always claims that he will have the world, but yet never works for it. If your man is always dreaming dreams and never acting them out – it’s time to give him a reality check.
2.The supposed 8 days in a week.
Ever heard of a day called someday? I haven’t either. According to certified bums, this is a very prominent day in their calendar where everything they say is going to happen, doesn’t. Need I say more?
1. Pride
In life, we always need to humble ourselves in order to acknowledge our mistakes and faults, learn from them, research on how to improve, thereafter progressing to another stage in our lives. This type of guy is so proud that he plays the game of attempting to act successful and content with his life, when in actuality he wishes he could be somewhere he’s not. How do you address such a problem? You need to be harsh, give him the facts, tell him who he is and what he CAN become.
HettyAsh xx