Forgiveness Is The Key

A quote I came across a while ago – can’t remember which source it was from but it really made me think;

When someone wrongs you, you want them to experience the maximum penalty, but when you wrong someone, you want forgiveness and understanding.

This, I feel is very true in most cases. Often if someone steps on our toes, we want them to feel the same pain. The actual truth is that nobody is perfect and we will inevitably hurt others intentionally and unintentionally. The best way to deal with this is to let go of what you cannot change, because after all, rewinding back time hasn’t been invented yet (and probably will never be). It’s easier said than done (trust me, I know), but you’ll get the hang of it with time. Besides, holding grudges is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die, yikes!

“Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you”. Ephesians 4:32.

HettyAsh xx


Are You Being Spiritually Fed?

“With revelation comes responsibility”
Pastor Choco

Spending time with God is time well spent.
What are you consciously doing to ensure that you are being spiritually fed. I know for me, I once thought going to church on a Sunday was the be all and end all, till I realised that wasn’t enough.

I mean I had to do the math, 7 days in a week, one day dedicated to God, and I thought that’s it, that’s my job done spirituality, God was I wrong. It was only until one day I was clicking through the channels and happened to come across a Christian channel called Daystar, and I thought oh wow they have Christian TV I know right SMH also. What intrigued me was a show called Joni table talk and the conversation they were having. It was so interesting to me that it demanded my whole attention and left me wanting more.

Just to give a brief description. Joni table talk is a Christian talk show, and they discuss everyday matters from a Christian perspective. It was a real eye opener. I suddenly began to find all the answers to questions I have been wanting to ask, but never felt confident to speak to the pastor about.

I decided to see what other programmes Daystar provided and to my delight I stumbled upon Marcus and Joni, which is another programme and you get to see inspirational pastors and leaders who are of God, and you get to hear about all that they are doing for the Kingdom of God.

They have “Reflections” which provides stunning nature images with instrumental versions of Christian music at the back, this gives the opportunity to mediate on God’s word. I suddenly found myself spending time with God on the weekdays and even on Saturdays. I can honestly say it’s changed my life and I now feel much closer to God than ever before.

I tell you, Keeping Up With The Kardashians could not satisfy this hole that had just been filled within minutes. So I will ask this question again, “are you being spiritually fed?” And don’t get me wrong, I love keeping up with the Kardashians, but I can’t get filled with happiness and inner peace that comes from God, through watching it.

xo Asiabee


Prosperity & Poverty

“Prosperity is a way of living and thinking and not just money or things. Poverty is a way of living and thinking, and not just the lack of money or things” – Eric Butterworth (I first heard this quote from the UCKG). I’ve noticed this for myself. Not long ago I started thinking and observing how the rich are and how the poor are. I mean, talking to certain people and then observing others I inspire to be like. I noticed that the ‘rich’ are positive, they have ‘can do’ attitudes and they don’t let things or people get in their way. If someone tells them it can’t be done – they’ll prove to them that it can. These people are doers – they have vision, ideas and they act. Whereas others wait on people to bless them, always asking for help and never really believe they can do things for themselves. They are huge procrastinators and love the word, ‘tomorrow’. Unfortunately, tomorrow never comes and as I’m sure you know, someday isn’t actually a day. Basically, you can acquire, achieve and conquer anything you set your mind to – as cliche as this sounds, it’s true. Don’t forget to always act!

HettyAsh xx


Being Replaced

I was reading an article from LinkedIn a few months ago about Nokia. I’m not sure if Nokia wrote the article or if LinkedIn or someone else did, but the article was in reference to Nokia, the mobile phone brand. It touched me so much and reiterated what I’ve always believed in. Life is always changing and although you can be successful and relevant today, you may not be tomorrow. You always have to upgrade and update your brand, be in the ‘know’ about what is happening around you and your competitors and don’t be afraid of change. Change is inevitable. So having said this, have a read of a very short extract of the article I read.
The advantage you have yesterday, will be replaced by the trends of tomorrow. You don’t have to do anything wrong, as long as your competitors catch the wave and do it RIGHT, you can lose out and fail.
To change and improve yourself is giving yourself a second chance. To be forced by others to change, is like being discarded.
Those who refuse to learn & improve, will definitely one day become redundant & not relevant to the industry. They will learn the lesson in a hard & expensive way.
Don’t be replaced and disregarded!
HettyAsh xx

The Value Of A Pound – Girl Talk


Money is so powerful and with it you can buy all the material things in the world, the house, the car, the Louis Vuitton hand bag and the Chanel lipstick. Funnily enough, you can also buy ‘friends’, bribe people and influence others to do good or bad. That’s the power of money, and it is still valued either way. That’s the power of people, of women.


You see or know a guy that you really like, his swag, his personality, the smile he gives you and the poetry he tells you and you’re sold. Perhaps he’s just being nice or that’s just how he is. So, you try to grab his attention, get him to ask you out, to take you out. One week, two weeks, one month, six months, and still nothing. Until, that is, you notice him showing interest towards one of your friends. That’s not enough to make you realise that maybe he’s not for you, or make you think, “why would I want to date a guy that is openly, and obviously showing interest towards another girl”.  You lower your standards and devalue yourself just to get a guy to like you a little bit more than a friend would.


Instead of counting your blessings and thanking God that at least he’s not the one for you and so you’ll find someone better than him and more suited to you, you don’t. You turn against your friend, show dislike towards her and even envy. Plotting to put a halt to anything and everything. Why ruin a good friendship with someone because of a ‘thought’. A guy that tells you you’re his friend.


Basically, a guy may not like who someone else loves. Even if you may have devalued yourself in that respect, you’re still valuable and you should know your worth. Don’t stress out over someone that is not meant to be. The value of a pound is that even if it gets dirty, or wet, or trampled on – it’s still a pound and still valuable, that’s the pound sterling.


My top tip to a valuable road – write down all the qualities about yourself and reflect on them – it will do you a world of good.


HettyAsh xx