Motivate Yourself To Achieve Your Ambition

Motivate Yourself To Achieve Your Ambition

Hey guys and dolls,

First things first, we we want to achieve so many things regardless of if we’re in our teens, twenties, thirties or older. Wanting and doing are two things that should go hand in hand but don’t always. ‘If only I could dream and wake up the next day with whatever it is I dreamt of the night before’, right? Yes, we have all had these thoughts and if you’ve never had such thoughts then well done to you.

‘If only I could dream and wake up the next day with whatever it is I dreamt of the night before’, right?

If you have ambitions like I do then you are half way there because in order for things to come into fruition and into existence you first have to have an idea; no ideas and no dreams equals no end goals.

Secondly people, you have to be highly motivated and I mean HIGHLY motivated. I say this because you can be motivated but by being even more motivated than the next person you’re almost guaranteed to go further than they are willing to. Can you honestly ask yourself am I willing to do whatever it takes to achieve my ambition (legally obviously)? The amount of times I have been knocked back and I’m still standing is literally a surprise to me – I say this because there are times where things, people, circumstances and situations will test you and push you to limits you didn’t even think you could reach. Are you ready to push yourself to limits you don’t even want to think of having to reach? I’m not, but then if I waited till I was I would never get anywhere.

Are you ready to push yourself to limits you don’t even want to think of having to reach?

My ambitions, like many relate to areas of my life which include my career and my family and so I have to take steps to reach the goals I have laid before me. Something that I’m trying to practice is taking pictures and writing these goals down so that they are there in front of my eyes and jotting down certain steps I know I will have to take.

I’m not going to tell you what you have to do because everyone has different aspirations and everyone works differently, but if you can visualise what you want and are willing to take action and go through the storm to get it then you’re on the right track.

I know particularly as a young person and being in your teenage years and studying that it can be difficult to know what you really want out of life and where your skills, talent and passions lay. It can be difficult, but it’s not impossible.

HettyAsh xx

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Christmas Time

Christmas Time

Hi all!!

A big fat Merry Christmas to everyone. I know some of you lovely people have celebrated it yesterday whilst others like myself, here in London are celebrating it today. It’s a great time for most people as it’s a time where those who haven’t seen family members for a while finally get to see them and take a break from the hustle and bustle life brings us each day.

It’s a great time to put up your feet, chill and not have to think about going to work, although I know some of you still have work due to the nature of your career i.e. police officers and nurses. Well done to you!

Friends, families and even foes are able to join together and celebrate this wonderful day – put aside any negative feelings to make this joyous day exactly that – joyous.

Charitable works is seen and heard of a lot more and in the UK we have street fundraising for various charities during the December and early January period. We pay close attention to those who may not have people to spend this day with and try to include them or make their day somewhat special regardless of their circumstance.

It’s a great day! The day becomes greater when we reflect and are thankful for remembering that Jesus Christ came into the world to be born as a human like me and you! I made it a point to go to church this morning and thank God. OK, so it’s Sunday but I go to church every Christmas day because after all isn’t that the real reason why we celebrate it in the first place?

With the hustle and bustle of gift buying and gift giving and celebration food and drinks and Christmas parties, charity giving and family time spending – I also go to church.

I post inspirational and reflection based quotes and poems on our Instagram page like this one called ‘Christmas Time’:

 

Remembering this period all the time

today is known as Christmas time

were family and friends come to shine

and charitable deeds is divine

but let’s not forget Jesus time

were is birth was divine.

 

HettyAsh xx

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Reflections 2016 – Poem

Reflections 2016 – Poem

With each year comes its own troubles and worries, its triumphs and glories,

they say don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow has it’s own worries, so forget the hurries.

I pondered about this year, did I make progress or did I just digress?

Did I move at a snail’s speed instead of lightening speed as life seemed like a stampede?

I am ambitious, full of life, goals and dreams but did 2016 just become repetitious?

I am precious, as everyone is, but the competitive spirit may have struck me, it’s infectious.

The question is, did I achieve what I set out to by this New Year’s eve?

 

I wondered and I said God, did I move at all or was I stuck, did life pass me by, did I just suck?

I was reminded by Him that the seeds I planted, being watered daily should not be be stranded.

It would grow, for what I reap I would sow and what I believe I would conceive.

Thoughts ran through my mind, I saw that progress I did attain, seed sowing I did pertain.

Not in comparison to others, career goals moved at a pace, I am winning my own race.

Dating to me is not for fun, I don’t settle for any less, yes indeed I must profess.

When the time comes I search to see compatibility in me and nothing lesser, you’ll see.

 

So 12 months in every year and in 2016, onwards and upwards, just not backwards.

Mistakes received, lessons learnt, one thing’s for certain I didn’t get burned.

For I know how the saying goes, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and this rings true.

Thank you 2016, all I can say now is bring on 20-heaven-teen.

HettyAsh xx

 

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Charm Is Deceitful and Beauty Is Vain

Charm Is Deceitful and Beauty Is Vain

Have you ever met someone you consider to have the gift of the gab? Perhaps you would describe yourself as having such trait. They say they can worm their way out of any situation just by talking and make even the hardened of hearts melt at the knees through their words.

It is often said that guys are more charming than women. I agree, I’ve often witnessed and heard guys singing sweet songs to women (figuratively speaking) and for some women they take everything the guy has said at face value. No questioning, no reasoning, no why is he telling me this, no what does he want, no nothing but yes sir and he loves me so.

So why do you have to question things? Why can’t we just let things be? We have to question things because unfortunately the world isn’t as rosy, peaceful and as selfless as we would like it to be. If you don’t observe, take notes and learn you may just end up becoming a victim of something you don’t want to be.

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” – Proverbs 31:30

For a long time I thought to myself, ‘charm is deceitful, really?’ However, upon looking deeper into this statement it really got me thinking about it – I realised that it’s true. It’s great to compliment people and to be complimented and in fact you should, but that’s not what charm is. Synonyms for the word charm include, enticement and to fascinate.

They talk as though they can’t bear to be without me and as though they miss me every time I’m not with them, but if I don’t give them what they want – they’re out the door sooner than I can say wait.

I’ve experienced within my own life that men who are generally interested in me don’t tend to ‘charm’ me. They don’t tell me sweet words like how they love me, how beautiful I am and how beautiful my smile is over and over and over again. They usually don’t say much, but their actions speak a thousand words. They check up on me at decent times of the day, they offer me sound advice, they want to willingly spend time with me, they are there for me in times of trouble, they are caring and they give without expecting anything in return.

However, men that I have found to be very charming have always talked the talk but have never walked the walk. They talk as though they can’t bear to be without me and as though they miss me every time I’m not with them, but if I don’t give them what they want – they’re out the door sooner than I can say wait. They want, want, want but often don’t give, give, give and even if they do give they hold me to ransom.

But why do they need to be charming? It is to cover the fact that they don’t actually care or love you and are not with you for the long haul but for something else that would probably only be to benefit themselves and not you.

It’s great to think highly of yourself, to deem yourself beautiful, you are, I am, we are all beautiful but thinking that you’re better than everyone else is not. Vain is defined as ‘having or showing an excessively high opinion of one’s appearance, abilities, or worth’. Synonyms include, narcissistic, self-obsessed and self-centred.

In my experience, both women and men who are vain tend to believe they can get anyone they want, be in any relationship they want and often feel they deserve more than what they give. They think they are better than you and walk around strutting their stuff with a look on their face of high importance.

They don’t walk around exclaiming from the rooftops that they are vain but if you look closer, it’s written all over their behaviour and things that they say without even saying, like “I can give you everything you’ve ever wanted”, OK but can you give yourself these things first then?

Some don’t necessarily exude this trait straight away, they reveal it in a more underlying way – it’s more of a read between the lines and you’ll get the drift type of thing. I remember there was a time I was talking to a guy and was telling him that it was not good to have different women and that he should stick to one. It was a long conversation where I even said that he wouldn’t want his girl sitting at home crying her eyes out whilst he goes about doing things he would not want her to do. What I got from him was, wow you’re complimenting me more than I’ve ever been complimented before and wow you think I can have all these girls. I said to him that even ‘ugly’ guys can have different girls.

I started to wonder why what I was saying didn’t bother him and instead seemed to boost his ego. It dawned upon me that he had this notion of him being this handsome and amazing guy that could indeed have all the girls and things he wanted. They don’t walk around exclaiming from the rooftops that they are vain but if you look closer, it’s written all over their behaviour and things that they say without even saying, like “I can give you everything you’ve ever wanted”, OK but can you give yourself these things first then?

View yourself as beautiful or handsome but don’t be vain about your beauty and there’s no need to charm anyone if you’re just being real and keeping it 100. 

I used to call myself a Christian but I really wasn’t because I wasn’t practicing at all. Now that I am, I can see a clear difference within myself but also within other people. I’ve noticed that the guys I have met in my church compared to the ones I met prior are different. There’s exceptions to every case but generally speaking, they respect/fear God, so they respect me as a woman, they don’t attempt to deceive or fabricate truths, they’re not vain, they are not charmers but doers and they are more transparent.

A women who fears the Lord is to be praised because her conduct, her understanding and her reverence for the Lord is what makes her possess the characteristics of a decent person. So if she looks for these traits in a man, it might be a longer wait but she will certainly not be disappointed as much.

So ladies and gents, view yourself as beautiful or handsome but don’t be vain about your beauty and there’s no need to charm anyone if you’re just being real and keeping it 100.

I would love to know your thoughts.

HettyAsh xx

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New Year’s Resolutions And When To Make Them!

As the year is coming to an end, I truly believe this is the best time to start thinking about our new year resolutions and how to implement them from NOW! The most popular mistakes we all make is that we take the title, “New Year Resolutions” quite literally and we sit around waiting for the new year to arrive before we write down our list of what we would like to achieve in the coming months, and what habits we want to leave behind and what new skills and qualities we would like to acquire. This time around let’s not do that, let’s do it now, as they say time is of the essence, so we shouldn’t wait around for the arrival of the New Year, let’s sit down and get serious with our selves and our resolution lists.

You see in the past, I’ve always  been one of those people who leaves things to the last minute and then expect everything to work out as I planned in my head, but of course we all know how that story goes, it never works that way!

I was inspired by this message whilst talking to a friend of mine. We were generally talking about how quickly the week had gone by, and how each month seems to speed by. Through the conversation he said that once we got of the phone, he would be preparing his plans for the new year. I was a little taken aback and I replied by saying  “what already”? He was surprised by my answer and replied “yes, because why do you need to wait around for the new year before you start making plans towards it”? He went on to say, this is the time to identify what you aim to achieve, and most importantly when you need to achieve it. I reflected on his words and I couldn’t agree more. You see in the past, I’ve always  been one of those people who leaves things to the last minute and then expect everything to work out as I planned in my head, but of course we all know how that story goes, it never works that way!

For the new  approaching year, let’s get REAL with ourselves and let’s make waves that echo through the oceans.

So by adapting to this new style of resolutions, you give yourself the best head start in planning towards the future. As they say failing to plan is planning to fail. Also getting in early leaves you with plenty of time to self explore all areas of your life, such as your financial life, spiritual growth, physical well-being and further learning development to catapult you to the next level of your life.

All of the above require time and reflection in order to really find out where the changes need to be made. Do not rush this by thinking that just because the new year is here, you will make mediocre resolutions just so you fit in to the status-quo.

Also don’t you think you would be short changing yourself by making declarations and resolutions that deep down in your heart you have no intentions of either taking steps to achieve or changing your life style to a place where you no longer depend on that habit? For the new  approaching year, let’s get REAL with ourselves and let’s make waves that echo through the oceans.

xo Asiabee

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