How Well-Being Can Improve Your Relationship

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I am very fortunate to have the lovely Isabel guest post today. She is absolutely incredible as she speaks of what I feel so many couples and individuals need to hear. Her blog post is titled, ‘How Well Being Can Improve Your Relationship’. This article will certainly resonate with many. Take it away Isabel!

He is the one, and you know it. You feel so happy to have met him and that the two of you are in a relationship, and you should.

But then you start worrying that he might leave you for someone else, or that he might not like something about you. You even come to the point where you might think that you are no longer good enough for him. Then, you’ll start obsessing about your relationship, trying to make up in attention what you think you might be lacking as a person or a lover – ‘If I call him several times a day, he will know that I care for him, right?’ or ‘He can’t possibly leave me after all the attention I have given him”.

And this is where you have it all wrong. No man wants a possessive, needy partner who is unsure of herself, a woman so focused on her own flaws that she stops caring about their relationship. If that’s the case, they might actually leave.

But, there is a way to prevent this from happening. Some things can still be fixed no matter how broken they are.

Drama thing

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“Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn’t change the heart of others– it only changes yours.”
― Shannon L. Alder

Research has proven that some of the most common dating mistakes women make relate back to the lack of real communication with their partner.

Imagine a situation where you come home after a bad day at work and you expect that he will notice that you are upset and ask you right away what the problem is. When he doesn’t, you get angry and resent the fact that he doesn’t know you well enough to realize that you need to talk to someone; or maybe he just does not care? Then, you start doubting yourself or thinking that there might be another girl. This might cause you to make a scene. After an argument you’ll only feel worse, because you know that is not how to be a good girlfriend, right?

Stop doing that and go for a different approach.

  • If you do not tell him, how will he know? Maybe he is also having a really bad day. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel without any drama.
  • Think about his feelings as well. The relationship is not just about you, so enquire about his day before unloading all the bad things about yours. Maybe he will share something good with you and you can partake in his happiness.
  • Small things are sometimes just small things. Stop overanalyzing everything and imagining the worst-case scenario.

 

Importance of self love

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“Never forget that once upon a time, in an unguarded moment, you recognised yourself as a friend.”

― Elizabeth Gilbert

It is a well-known fact that people feel better about themselves whilst in the company of confident people. It transmits positive vibes and reinforces the positive opinion of oneself. Lack of confidence, on the other hand, can have the opposite effect. If you tend to over-criticise everything you do, your partner will start feeling the same way about himself. Really unhealthy, isn’t it?

You were not always so negative about yourself. There was a time when you liked how you were and did not care about what others thought of you. It might have been during your childhood, your adolescence or even last year, but at a certain point, you liked who you were and cherished your flaws as well as your qualities. They are what makes you who you are. If you can’t resolve these issues on your own, consider other routes like self-acceptance books, or even acceptance & commitment therapy which is recommended by Heath Group Practice. Online counselling is also a great alternative, at least for the first couple of sessions and it’s great if you are a shy person. A fine example of this would be 7cups counselling.

 

However here’s two basic tips on how you can start to love yourself again:

  • Be kind to yourself and love who you are. That will give you strength to face any problems you might be having with your partner.
  • Embrace your flaws, nobody is perfect.

Hold on together.

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“Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you’re worthy of the trip.”

― Glenn Beck, The Christmas Sweater

Think of your relationship as one long voyage cruise across the sea – there will be storms but there will also be breath-taking sunrises. This is an adventure you share with the one you love and both of you must enjoy the trip if you want to make it work. Both of you must want to arrive at the same harbor and embark on a new journey. For that, both of you need to feel confident about yourselves and about where you want your relationship to be.

Changing your habits and beliefs is hard, but it is not impossible:

  • Reassure yourself that you are the person your partner wants to spend time with and let him know you want to be with him too. A relationship is two people going in the same direction.
  • Just enjoy your ride. You deserved it for all the love you are willing to offer.

Relationships are hard even when you have everything working for you. So, do not dwell on the negative all the time. Take his hand and face the horizon together.

 

Isabel WilliamsIsabel F. William Body&Mind Balance Consultant. Lover of literature and philosophy, runner, and Tai Chi master. She believes that sometimes it is just enough to enjoy a really good book, smooth jazz and a cup of coffee to travel somewhere else.

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E-mail: isabel.f.william@gmail.com or  isabel.frank@ripped.me

 

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Spell Classy With A Pink Dress

Hi ladies, I went to an awards ceremony a few months ago as part of the press team. It was lovely seeing all the fabulous and colourful outfits. They were mostly African wear or African print based. I love wearing African print, however, for this occasion I opted for one of my pink dresses. I call this a classy pink dress because I think it’s simple, conservative and playful at the same time.

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I met up with my cousin the other day and she told me that my dress sense is conservative but playful. She gave me an example saying that I may wear a playful jumpsuit or dress but then wear a jacket to go with it. Well, I have you know that I am often known as the jacket girl at work because I wear so many jackets. Nonetheless, I usually dress quite smart for work. When I say smart I mean smart casual as we’re allowed to be quite flexible in terms of what we wear at work.

Classy Pink Dress

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I absolutely love how I wore my hair to this event. I sprinkled my hair with water and added some leave in hair conditioner, then I parted it into sections and plaited it. I went to bed and undid the plaits the next morning and just used my fingers or a tooth comb to loosen the curls before clipping my hair at the back. I then used my fingers to style the front of my hair in order to give it volume.

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So if you have a special event to attend during these coming weeks, why not buy a simple, yet smart and conservative pink dress and wear black heels. Such heels goes with almost anything. If you feel like going back in time slightly, you can do my hairstyle and I won’t tell. So, spell classy with a pink dress.

Hope you like my pictures as much as I liked taking them.

 

HettyAsh xx

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