How To Keep Your Focus on Your Faith

How To Keep Your Focus on Your Faith

Hey all! I have often heard of many people exclaiming that they no longer go to church due to the gossip of others. They have said that they witness people bad mouthing others.  They are called hypocrites. This is true – there are people who gossip in churches. I have to add that not everyone who goes to church are used by God. In comparison, not everyone who goes to school are actually learning. You have to pay attention and follow the correct teachings in order to learn. If we focus on what is right, we won’t be concerned about what is wrong, in fact, we won’t even notice.

I was reading a short piece by Bishop Macedo, the founder and leader of the UCKG Helpcentre and he stated the following story.

A young man went to the pastor and said, “Pastor, I’m not coming to church anymore!”

“Why?” the pastor asked.

“Because I saw one woman badmouthing another,” the young man replied. “That man over there gives a terrible testimony outside, and the other one criticises you about the campaign.”

“Okay,” the pastor said. “All I ask is that you do me a favour before you leave. Fill a glass with water and walk around the church three times. There’s a catch; you must do this without spilling a single drop of water on the floor. After you do this, then you can leave the church.”

The boy thought: ‘That’s super easy.’

And he walked around the church three times.

When he had finished, he said: “I’m done, pastor.”

And the pastor asked him: “Did you see the woman badmouthing the other one while you were walking around the church?”

“No,” the young man said.

“Did you hear anyone complain about the campaign?”

“No.”

“Do you know why? You were focused on the cup so that you wouldn’t spill any water. The same happens in our lives when our focus is on the Lord Jesus, and we are careful not to lose our salvation. When we do this, then we don’t have time to pay attention to other people’s mistakes.”

Let’s keep our faith healthy. Don’t let go of the most precious thing you have, which is your salvation.

 

It’s such a great example that reminded me that if I’m focused on my faith and on me, I won’t be so bothered about what other people do around me or against me.

HettyAsh xx

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The First Half Pleated Skirt

Hi lovelies! In London the weather is absolutely amazing. It has been so sunny and warm throughout the weekend. What better way to enjoy the sun than to be outside living it up in the park, or seated outside at a café or chilling in the beach?

I really like this outfit I wore. At first, when I bought this particular skirt, I wasn’t so sure. I didn’t know if it would suit me and I didn’t know whether I had a top to match it. It’s definitely a unique skirt and one that confused me slightly. Maybe I’m over exaggerating but I literally saw the skirt and thought, ‘wow that looks different’, so I picked it up and bought it without much thought. It’s rare that I will find an item of clothing and just instantly like it. Nonetheless, I like different things, I enjoy standing out and always try to dress up in a way that others don’t.

Half Pleated Skirt, NEXT, Sandals, ALDO, Sheer pussy bow tie top, New Look

I went with a friend to the infamous The Shard in London Bridge and dined at Lang, an artisan cake shop inside, Shangri La-Hotel. I definitely have to go back there as I enjoyed the time that I spent; it was relaxing, posh and serene.

I’ve had this top for years – literally years and it never seems to disappoint. It is a sheer black top with stars decorated across it and a pussy bow tie. It has a classy and smart look and goes with almost everything in my wardrobe. So if you’re style is like mine, something like this might just be for you.

Half Pleated Skirt, NEXT, Sandals, ALDO

The skirt! I have really fallen in love with it. It is half pleated and has a contrasting black and orange colour. It’s loosely fitted and is mid length. This is the first half pleated skirt I have ever seen so I just had to grab it when I saw it. I haven’t yet seen anyone walking around with it so for now I’m safe as I don’t like wearing items that everyone else seems to be wearing.

Half Pleated Skirt, NEXT, Sandals, ALDO

The heeled sandals with the tie detail is actually more comfortable than it may look. It’s probably about 4 inches and has a slim heel. I usually don’t wear heels that high and slim but they are so gorgeous.

Half Pleated Skirt, NEXT, Sandals, ALDO, Sheer pussy bow tie top, New Look

The heels certainly compliment the skirt.

Half pleated skirt – Next

Top – New Look

Heeled sandals – Aldo

What do you think of the half pleated skirt look? Do you own any?

 

HettyAsh xx

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Follow You Passion and Not Others

Follow You Passion and Not Others

Follow your passion and not others! This is a bold statement. Follow your passion and not others! Each word in this sentence has a meaning. Sometimes our passion is calling us, whether it be working in the creative industries, owning a business or pursuing another path. Aside from our individual talents, people are also calling us. People can be anyone from your parents and your siblings to your teachers and your friends. Others always feel they know what’s best for you better than you do. They feel they know you more than you know yourself.

 

At my CreatHers event, one of the guest speakers, Jade Keshia Gordon, spoke about the challenges she faced in relation to her career. She went to university but didn’t complete the full length of her degree. Her talent and skills lay in photography. It was something she was and still is very passionate about. Her mum didn’t understand this as her normality was to get a degree and work in the NHS. There are many parents who want their kids to undertake a corporate role or become a doctor, lawyer ­– you know to get ‘real job’.

“Believe in yourself even if no one believes in you” – Jade Keshia Gordon

Due to their background and experiences, they didn’t comprehend that photography could actually be a job and that you could make real money from. Jade had grown up in a West Indies household and like many people from a similar background, getting a job didn’t include photography.

 

Initially, Jade’s mother felt embarrassed to tell people that she was a photographer. I can imagine exactly how her mum would have felt. After all, most photographers are freelancers and many people see photography as a hobby and not an actual career. It was not until Jade’s mum saw her work in Cosmopolitan that she became proud and understood that people could make an income and be successful from photography. Jade has showed us what it truly means to follow your passion. One thing that she said at the CreatHers talk was “believe in yourself even if no one believes in you”.

 

I am a testament to this exact statement. I had to and still have to believe in myself. Many people won’t believe in someone until they see success pouring out of their lives. People need to see something tangible, something real, before they even begin to buy into your goals and future plans.

My mum wanted me to get into politics. Imagine me in politics. I am a creative person. I am an ideas’ person

I am by no means where I want to be in life, but guess what? I’ve made progress. I can sincerely relate to Jade. I wanted to work in television but I realised very early on that I was the only one who really believed in this goal. I wasn’t 100% sure of how I was going to achieve this, as I didn’t know enough about the television industry and certainly didn’t know anyone who worked in it.

People have literally suffered at the hands of others who thought they knew best for them

Just like Jade, my mum initially wanted me to take a more ‘serious’ path. In fact, my mum wanted me to get into politics. Imagine me in politics. I am a creative person. I am an ideas’ person. I now work in television production and development in London and have worked on some of the most notable programmes on the most watched channels.

If we were all doctors, lawyers and politicians, who would feed the news to the citizens?

People have literally suffered at the hands of others who thought they knew best for them. Don’t get me wrong, many of those in question love these people, but that doesn’t mean that they should dictate your life for you. One thing I have to state is that your parents do know what’s best for you overall, however, I disagree with the idea of them ‘choosing’ a career path for their kids. If we were all doctors, lawyers and politicians, who would feed the news to the citizens? Who would take professional photos of brands, companies and individuals? Who would make the clothes we all wear, and who would entertain us with the programmes we watch?

 

Think about it! Don’t let others dictate which career path you should take as after all whatever decisions you make will affect you first. You will only ever have yourself to blame and although we can regret our choices, we can’t change them if they’ve already been put into place.

 

Have a read of my ‘Get Out Of The 9’5 Mindset’ blog – you may like it.

 

What do you think about the above?

 

HettyAsh xx

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GUBA Awards 2017 Awarding Excellence

GUBA Awards 2017 Awarding Excellence

Hi guys,

 

I attended the 6th annual GUBA awards on Saturday the 3rd of June as part of the press team. The awards ceremony was attended by an array of media personalities and notable individuals. These included MP Dianne Abbott, Iain Walker – British High Commissioner to Ghana, X Factor finalists Reggie n Bollie and BBC’s The Apprentice series 12 contestant Samuel Boateng to name a few.

 

The GUBA Awards is otherwise known as the Ghana UK Based Awards. It is a non-profit business and innovation award set up to acknowledge, celebrate and support Ghanaian based businesses and individuals in the UK. As the annual ceremony has grown the event has opened to a much wider audience. Regardless of your race, if you attain a business or charity background and have conducted projects in the UK with relation to Ghana you too could get involved in the awards ceremony. If you simply want to celebrate as a guest and enjoy a night of celebratory success then be sure to look out for the next event. The events are held annually.

 

The awards was founded by Dentaa Amoateng MBE who is a British-Ghanaian entrepreneur, actress, TV presenter, singer, producer and manager.

Dentaa GUBA

GUBA’s 6th annual awards ceremony was held in June 2017 and celebrated Ghana at 60. The hosts were the utterly hilarious comedian Eddie Kadi and well known Ghanaian entrepreneur, TV and radio presenter Anita Erskine.
Eddie-Kadi-and-Anita-Erskine

It is evident that Dentaa is very passionate about her Ghanaian community. She wants awards such as GUBA to inspire and motivate others to pursue their ambitions and know that if others have done it so can they. Amidst the news reports of high levels of stabbings amongst young boys in London over the last few months, Dentaa said,

 

I want black boys to know that they can make it, look at Anthony Joshua [who went] from drugs  and prison to a multi-millionaire boxer.

 

During the ceremony, a video from His Excellency – Nana Akufo-Addo, the President of the Republic of Ghana was played to the audience.

 

I have been a keen follower of the activities of GUBA and I must say they have done a brilliant job especially in helping to consolidate the economic, social and tourism link between the UK and Ghana. We should all stand ready to support GUBA.

 

There were other notable videos that were played at the ceremony from veteran British broadcaster, Jon Snow and former First Lady, Cherie Blaire.

 

Amongst the recognitions and awards that were awarded on the night was the Outstanding Achievement Award that was given to Chris Hughton. He had been appointed the role of the manager of the football club, Brighton & Hove Albion FC. Chris had done amazingly well by leading the club to its promotion from the championship into the premier league this year.

 

Dr. Papa Kwesi Nduom (pictured below in the middle), is a business consultant and leader of one of Ghana’s largest political party – Progressive People’s Party (PPP). The prestigious award for excellence in business was awarded to Dr. Nduom by Warner Rootliep, the general manager of UK & Ireland AirFrance KLM. He certainly deserved to win the biggest award of the night for his businesses in the banking, finance, hospitality and media industries.

Dr-Nduom-middle, Christ Houghton etc

I spoke to Samuel Boateng, BBC’s The Apprentice series 12 contestant on what it meant for him to be a nominee for Business Start Up of the Year. He simply spoke of wanting to give recognition to the Ghanaian UK business and help others like himself.

Samuel Boateng and wife GUBA Awards

The GUBA Black Star Awardees 

Maidie Arkutu – Female Influential Leader Apostle

Kwadwo Safo – Innovative Pioneer

Anas Aremeyaw Anas – Exceptional Journalist

Michael K. Obeng – Humanitarian Spirit

Dr Papa Kwesi Nduom – Excellence in Business, Ghana

Mr & Mrs Mensah (Uncle John’s Bakery) – Enterprising Business Award

Kwaku Oteng – Outstanding Industrialist

Dr Kofi Amoa-Abban – Young Oil & Gas Entrepreneur Kelvin Doe – Young African Innovator

Dr Nii Dzani – Influential Economist

Dr Jason Sarfo-Annin – Student Achiever of the Year

Mrs Ivy Manly-Spain – Female Excellence in Oil and Gas Award

Chris Hughton – Outstanding Achievement Award

For a list of the GUBA award winners visit the official website, gubaawards.co.uk. If you’re an aspiring business owner, entrepreneur or media personality check out the nominees, winners and guests who attended the event and follow them for inspiration and advice.

The ceremony was a fun, energetic and entertaining way to recognise those individuals, brands, organisations and charities alike, not just through heart warming speeches but also through performances and a live band.

GUBA Awards Band

three masked men on stage GUBA Awards

I must state that the outfits that both Ghanaians and non-Ghanaians wore to the event were incredible. They were filled with colour, life and culture.

GUBA Awards 17

GUBA Awards 17

GUBA Awards 17

GUBA Awards 17 HettyAsh

GUBA Awards 17

Claire Clottey GUBA Awards

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Keep up to date with my events tab for news on events I organise and host for media creatives and entrepreneurs.

HettyAsh xx

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Should We Really Follow Our Hearts When It Comes To Relationships?

Should We Really Follow Our Hearts When It Comes To Relationships?

Ever heard of the infamous saying, ‘follow your heart’? I have. Well, who hasn’t? One thing I have noticed regarding famous sayings and quotes is that a lot of them are not necessarily true. The quotes look nice, they sound nice and they even flow off the tip of your tongue so perfectly, but the shocking truth is that some are just misleading. “The heart is deceitful above all things” – The Bible, Jeremiah 17:9.

 

I can draw from my experiences and the experiences of others. Many women have fallen prey and victim to the endless sweet talk that they have received in the past. The type of sweet talk that never seemed to match with one’s actions. There are many who fall weak at the knees and feel so giddy that they just can’t believe how ‘perfect’ this new-found person seems to be.

 

There are many times where I’ve been told stories of where a guy wooed a girl so much that he eventually prepared a beautiful romantic meal for her in his home with roses. It was a dream. This woman slept with the guy and never heard from him after this.

 

Blinded by our Hearts

 

There are many instances where family and friends absolutely detest someone their loved one is dating. They see straight through his/her fake acts of kindness and gestures, their behaviour and their poor character. However, the person in the relationship sees this person as pure gold. They fail to see the signs of him/her being too friendly with the opposite sex. They repeatedly choose to stay with them after betrayals and even make excuses for them.

 

Somewhere at the back of their minds they know that something is not quite right. Nonetheless, because they love this person and they are controlled by their heart i.e. their feelings, they simply ignore what they know.

 

My mind is telling me no but my heart is telling me yes

 

Have you ever been in a predicament concerning your love life where your mind is telling you no but your heart is telling you yes? There are some people who cry wolf until kingdom come. They are always sorry for the same terrible actions they have committed. They apologise like the word sorry is going out of fashion and profess their love for you like no other. Yet, they repeatedly and constantly lie to you, abuse your trust, maltreat you and disrespect you.

 

They play on your heart and emotions and because you’re sensitive and caring, you accept their apology over and over and over again. You feel sorry for them and you love them, so for this reason, you cave in. You know that you should walk away but yet again you follow your heart.

 

That’s dangerous because the more you listen to your heart, the more hurt you will be and the more unwanted baggage you will unwillingly claim.

The heart can be erratic

 

One minute you want to be with this person and the next minute you break up. There’s a moment where you feel completely loved up and promise that this person will be your spouse in the future but then the next day you’re completely confused. That’s how the human heart is. One minute we can be on cloud nine and the next minute we can feel low.

 

Our emotions can be all over the place and if we follow them, we too can be all over the place, just like the wind. Which direction does the wind go? Everywhere. It flows everywhere.

 

No two relationships are the same and relationships are certainly not perfect. There will be ups and there will be downs. There will be arguments and disagreements but there will be joy and laughter as well. If you are led by your emotions you will act on impulse and always regret the previous decisions you made.

 

So guys, never follow your heart when it comes to relationships. Follow your mind, follow your reasoning and follow your intelligence. Of course, your heart will initially be drawn to said person because you’re immediately attracted to them for instance. However, that shouldn’t be the deciding factor of whether you should be with the person.

 

Love at first sight simply doesn’t exist. It is not real, there is attraction at first sight, lust at first sight, but certainly not love. Firstly, you can’t love someone you don’t know. Secondly, love is an action more than a feeling. You choose to love someone and to show them love. That’s why some state that they have fallen out of love with their partner. You fall out of love when you stop choosing to love them.

 

Can you relate to any of the examples I’ve mentioned? What are your thoughts?

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