Hello guys and dolls,
If you’re anything like me, turning a year older once I was 21 got terrifying and I would no longer shout from the rooftops that it was my birthday. I then had a change of philosophy and started to see the year differently. I questioned myself on why turning a year older was so overwhelming rather than it being a blessing. The answer I got back surprised me. I realised I wasn’t setting enough goals and targets for my life, thus with each year of getting older I wasn’t achieving all that I had set out to achieve.
Flip The Script
I flipped the script, did some soul searching and believe me that wasn’t easy and I started to set goals, aspirations and life development skills for myself. Each year I would tick of my list the goals that had been achieved. By doing this, it gave me a sense of purpose for my life and it directed me towards the life I wanted to live as well as the necessary steps I would need to take in order to bring these dreams to fruition.
My first goal was to get a university degree in social work. I had always wanted a job that interacted with people and helped them to better manage their lives, so I did an access course for the year. I was thrilled to past the course which then gave me access to attend Royal Holloway University of London where I attained my degree in social work. So at this point, 4 years of my life had been dedicated to higher learning and I was completely fine with that because finally I was doing what I set out to do with my life on a year by year basis. Whereas, previously I would have been so disappointed that four years of my life had past by and I wouldn’t have had anything to show for it.
They say that once you’re on a winning streak the blessings keeps on coming; this is so true. I would also add that once you have figured out the strategy and methods that work best for you, it is easier to then apply those same methods to multiple areas of your life in order to achieve your goals and ambitions. That’s exactly what I did.
My other ultimate goal was to get married and have children. I honestly thought that it would be an impossible mountain to climb and I couldn’t see how this could happen. You see, just like so many other women, I had already planned my entire life so I knew that by the age of 30 I wanted to be already married with 1 or 2 children. However, when I got to 27 and had just broken up with the person who I thought I would be married to, all of a sudden I saw the perfect picture I had planned for my life become distorted. Once again I found myself feeling the same emotions I felt when another year went by and I would be filled with anxiousness and disappointment, (as I knew what I wanted to achieve was slowly slipping out of my sight).
However, with a little faith, self believe and refusing to settle for just anything due to the pressures of age and years, I had a break through. I met the man of my dreams at the age of 28 turning 29. We got married within 15 months and had a child together. I am elated to announce that I have recently given birth to another beautiful boy. I achieved all of this just before the age of 30. So now I can confidently profess, every year is one step closer to achieving my ultimate goals and ambitions.
Never be disheartened if life doesn’t seem to go according to plan because with a little bit of faith, focus, determination and planning, you will eventually reach your destination. Just know that every year is indeed one step closer to achieving your ultimate goal regardless of how small the step may seem.