High Heels Don’t Care – Doing What’s Best For Yourself

I love the idea of wearing high heels; it helps you look classy, elegant and sophisticated. You could be wearing something simple or even jeans but as soon as you put on heels, your look goes to another level. It has its benefits but it also has its disadvantages. In theory, I would wear high heels to every occasion and to Sunday services at church but in practice, I usually don’t wear them that often.

I choose comfort nearly all the time when deciding what to wear; this doesn’t mean I don’t make an effort, because I do, I have to make sure I feel comfortable. This means that I can breathe in the clothes and footwear I’m in, but that I also like what I’m wearing, because if I don’t…well, then I just won’t feel comfortable at all.

Ladies, life can be like a pair of high heels, not everyone is supposed to like you, not everyone is supposed to agree with you and not everyone is supposed to be pleased with you. Even though I know this, I have been guilty so many times of trying to please others and everyone and anyone.

We all know the negative effect high heels can have like somehow elevating you from the ground so that you can’t walk or run like you would without them on. Other examples include them becoming increasingly uncomfortable to wear as the day or the night goes on and causing you foot pain. Having said this, a lot of us ladies love to wear our high heels because at the end of the day, it’s what makes an outfit. If you wear a beautiful dress for a special occasion but wear flats instead of heeled shoes you already pretty much look casual. So even though I love comfort and would pick the option of comfort any day over anything, I’ll have to swap my comfort for a pair of heels at certain times just so that I can look and feel the part.

Ladies, life can be like a pair of high heels, not everyone is supposed to like you, not everyone is supposed to agree with you and not everyone is supposed to be pleased with you. Even though I know this, I have been guilty so many times of trying to please others and everyone and anyone.

I have often found in the past that I used to be so concerned with pleasing other people and being the yes girl that I found it was taking its toll on me. The truth is, it is a great burden on oneself to try to please everyone.

I secretly think that us females have something in us that makes us worry more and care more for others including thinking about what others think of us. It’s great to care for others and in fact we should and in life we’re supposed to serve one another (that’s a blog topic for another day). However, sometimes said people want from us what we can’t and should not give. They may want us to do favours for them we don’t think is right for ourselves, go out with them when we’d rather stay in, pursue things we believe is not right and so on.

I have often found in the past that I used to be so concerned with pleasing other people and being the yes girl that I found it was taking its toll on me. The truth is, it is a great burden on oneself to try to please everyone. This is due to many reasons. It’s impossible to be real, honest, transparent and be the person that always tries do the right thing all the time when we’re too busy trying to do things to please others all the time instead.

If you realise that some people you may be trying to please are thinking about what’s best for themselves or what they want, whilst others think they know what you need when they actually may not, life will become a lot clearer.

Over the last couple of years or so, I really started doing what was best for me, listening to my instincts more, following my gut more and doing what I knew was the right think to do. I’m glad to say that it helped me out so much. At first I may have felt unsure if I was doing the right thing, especially if others were saying I wasn’t but in the long run I realised I should have just believed in myself more.

Girls, our instincts never lie, I mean never. I can vouch for that. I should really write a blog on this, but for now remember this saying, ‘high heels, don’t care’. Take care of the number one person in your life which is you! Love others, care for others but always do what’s best for  you, the situation and the circumstance. After all, no-one knows you more than you and if you’re being real, it’s impossible to please everyone anyways.

“Woe to you when all men speak well of you…” – Luke 6:26

HettyAsh xx

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