A Thousand Words Of Silence

Communication is key! Yawn, of course it is, but are you really communicating?

 

I’m sure we can all agree that everyone expresses themselves whether verbally or physically, but how can you express yourself so that the other person knows what you’re saying?  By talking. OK wait, although it sounds so simple, a lot of us find it hard to do so.

 

Some see silence as a form of communication – it is, but at the same time it isn’t, because helloooo we’re not mind readers, we don’t know what is really going on in another person’s head unless they tell us.

 

So on that note, I’ve listed below, three examples of poor communication:

  • You want to grab the attention of someone you have a crush on.
    • You update your Facebook profile picture hoping they will notice and comment on your picture or speak to you.
    • You smile at them when they walk past you or stare at them awkwardly.
    • You waffle on about how single you are.
  • You arrange to meet a friend but the person turns up late.
    • You shout at them.
    • You give them the silent treatment.
    • You leave before they arrive and make an excuse as to why you weren’t there when they eventually showed up.
  • You feel a colleague isn’t portraying effective team working skills.
    • You stop working with him/her as a team and start working individually.
    • You give him/her the ‘cold shoulder’.
    • You tell your boss.

I don’t know about you guys, but I’m not a mind reader, if you have something to say, say it. Most of the times people don’t even realise when they have wronged you and besides, who really has time to be decoding your ‘messages’. I haven’t evented away to get my mind to communicate via Bluetooth or WiFi (yet), so until then, effective verbal communication is always (and probably will always be) a good starting point to resolving any conflict or issues.

 

The above examples, I believe are forms of poor communication as you are not directly explaining to the individual what you want and how you feel.

 

The best way to express what’s inside you is to find an appropriate time to calmly verbalise your thoughts. This means, don’t shout across the room in front of people, or gossip about the person or give them the ‘silent treatment’ as these cases will most likely cause more problems.

 

So on that note, below are three examples of good communication (I’ll probably get tired of using the word by the time this blog is over, lol):

  • Think over the situation a few times and think of the best approach. Different people react to things and people differently. Try, if you can and analyse the person and circumstance to find the best way to express yourself verbally.
  • Ask questions. I say this as sometimes we may misunderstand people so asking questions will help you to better understand what place they are coming from.
  • If angry, agitated, annoyed etc. calm down and try to detach yourself from being too emotional. Find an appropriate time to speak to the person either face to face, via phone or video call (don’t text). Express yourself in a calm manner and don’t shout or breakdance with your neck if you know what I mean.

I hope this helps guys!

 

HettyAsh xx

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The Married Life

The Married Life

Hey guys and dolls, this week’s blog is going to be a little different. I have decided to provide our viewers with a little insight of my married life. I have chosen to touch on this subject as I feel not many people talk about their married life, and that’s okay but I think from time to time people need to be aware of the reality of marriage and the ups and downs that one can go through whilst being married.

 

So I am nearly embarking on being married for a year and I can honestly say it’s been a self-discovery of myself as well as my husband. I have quickly learned to not put all my expectations on my husband, and realise that it’s important to remain an individual as well as in partnership.

 

I truly believe you need to be self-fulfilled to really appreciate your significant other, and do not look to them to make your dreams come true as ultimately that’s entirely on you. Communication is a big factor in any relationship and my husband and I have quickly realised that we have to work on this each and every day for our relationship and needs to be identified and met.

 

Taking time to enjoy your own space is crucial for your attitude in a relationship and allows you to bring a better vibe to your significant other. My husband and I love every minute we spend with each other, but we also appreciate our time apart as it allows us to miss each other and appreciate what we have.

 

Finding time to reconnect is an instrumental part in every relationship. I have to admit this is the part we struggle with the most as we have a 17- month old baby who consumes all of our time. So we are constantly reminding ourselves that we need to take time out to be with each other. We try as much as possible to get some alone time but it’s not always possible but we realise that, and we are making a conscious effort to spend time with just the two of us.

 

Okay so that’s enough about me and my married life. If you want to know more, please get back to me and I’ll be more than happy to offer my advice and support.

 

xo Asiabee

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Zach’s Fashion World

This post is all about this adorable and cute toddler. Zach knows how to work it even when he doesn’t mean to and instead of me waffling on and boring you guys to sleep, I thought, hey, why not give you guys some inspiration on dressing up lil tots! 

The floor is yours Zach!

 

Teddy And Me

Cutiepies! Wear a matching patterned shirt with smart cotton trousers and he’ll be the prince of the castle. Oh, don’t forget his adorable accessory, his one and only teddy!

 

Playful Daffodils

Cute Tots! They are one of a kind, except all tots love to play in the grass with beautiful daffodils, don’t they? Pair a onesie or dungaree with a colourful jumper and you’r bound to sparkle like the sun.

Vroom Vroom – Checkmate!

OK so babies are not matured enough to play chess, but they can still have an amazing time riding along in the car with their mums and dads. Dress your tot in an open buttoned check shirt with cotton trousers and you’re good to go.

 

 

 

HettyAsh xx

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Feel Good Soul Food

Feel Good Soul Food

Hey guys and dolls,

 

I have compiled 5 superfoods that will make you feel and look good. Hope you enjoy reading.
Berries

 

 

 

 

 

 

Benefits

Did you know all berries are a great source of fibre and one that is important for a healthy digestive system? The best thing about fibre, is that it may help to promote weight loss.

 

Eggs

Benefits

Protein; eggs might give your meal more staying power too. A recent study found that when people ate a scrambled-egg-and-toast breakfast, they felt more satisfied and ate less during lunchtime, compared to if they had a bagel that contained the same amount of calories.

Beans

Benefits

Beans are a good plant-based source of iron a mineral that transports oxygen from your lungs to the cells in your body. I love baked and black eyed beans.

 

Nuts

Benefits

Nuts provide sources of heart- healthy unsaturated fats. Walnuts and Cashew nuts are two of my favourites.

 

Tea

Benefits

Studies have shown if you drink tea regularly, you may be able to reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s, diabetes and some cancers. Wow I didn’t even realise tea had all those benefits. Well on that note tea anyone?

 

xo Asiabee

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Forgiveness Is The Key

Forgiveness Is The Key

A quote I came across a while ago – can’t remember which source it was from but it really made me think;

When someone wrongs you, you want them to experience the maximum penalty, but when you wrong someone, you want forgiveness and understanding.

This, I feel is very true in most cases. Often if someone steps on our toes, we want them to feel the same pain. The actual truth is that nobody is perfect and we will inevitably hurt others intentionally and unintentionally. The best way to deal with this is to let go of what you cannot change, because after all, rewinding back time hasn’t been invented yet (and probably will never be). It’s easier said than done (trust me, I know), but you’ll get the hang of it with time. Besides, holding grudges is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die, yikes!

“Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you”. Ephesians 4:32.

HettyAsh xx

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