The Celibacy Thing and Does it Really Work?

The Celibacy Thing and Does it Really Work?

Hey guys and dolls,

For those of you who are single, you might find this very interesting. I have started to notice more than ever that there is a constant debate surrounding celibacy and more and more people are choosing abstain from sex.

So why is this happening I hear you ask. It’s simple really, I believe a lot of people are fed up with being taken for granted and are sick and tired of giving their all in a relationship and getting nothing back in return. I know as a woman and speaking from a woman’s point of view, when she truly likes or loves a man and she gives herself to him, she is hoping for a future that entails marriage and when this is not the reality she feels defeated and used. With women being more emotional it can become a draining process and one we would rather not experience again.

So what does is mean to be celibate?

Celibacy in general is the act of abstaining from sex for a period of time, although some may also choose to include no kissing. In such cases, the purpose for dating is to explore who that person is and to avoid any surprises in the future.

I decided to speak to a couple of people who expressed to me that they are now remaining celibate and to find out the motivation behind the decision. They informed me that in the past they had jumped into relationships without much thought about finding out who that person is and what they are really about. In doing this they have come across a lot of hassle, pain, heartbreak and they have found their time to be wasted with broken promises of marriage and dreams.

Also from a spiritual perspective they have now decided to put their trust in the Lord and they are believing in God to place the right man in their lives who has the same faith, values and principles.

According to, famous people such as actress Meagan Good and her husband, DeVon Franklin abstained from sex until marriage. They know all too well that good things come to those who wait. The Hollywood power couple insist that waiting to have sex until marriage was key to their relationship.

Another famous couple are “Adrienne Bailon and Israel Houghton who stayed celibate with each other until their wedding night and when the big moment finally arrived, Bailon made it extra special” –

Devout NFL star Russell Wilson and his new wife, Ciara also abstained from sex until they were married. She is currently pregnant with Russell’s first child as stated in –

When you examine these three relationships you notice that their is a thread that ties them all together. The women made a decision that they wanted to be wives and not girlfriends anymore, and they realised that in order to get something different they had to try something different. As they say you can’t keep doing the same things expecting different results. I think if it worked for them then it will surely work for you.

xo Asiabee